Arthur decided to love me as while

Arthur always says that he loves his dad the most.

I took both boys for a quick walk after dinner. They both took their scooters. Ben ran ahead of us, Arthur was with me. Then he told me that he changed his mind. He loves mom and dad both the same.

He said the same this morning to his dad and Ben. And also asked Ben to love dad the same. He said that he changed his mind when he walks with me.

So, I can't win his love by taking him to different classes, by doing chaos for him, by sending him to school every morning. I won his love just by spend a little bit quite time with him. How easy it is.

Arthur's first week on campus

In order to save $380 per week, I dropped Arthur off and have him stay on campus.

His dad somehow picked him up earlier than usual. He took him home, then went to do yard work. Arthur just watched pokeman.

Tuesday is a banked day. Student was released at 1:30. Arhur went to a free bible afterschool until 3, then go to auditorium to practice flute. He ends up asked me a lot of questions about what is God, is he alive and so on. I have to tell him about budda. I am not a faithful buddist, but have to tell him all about it so he won't become a stubborn christian.

On Wednesday, it was rainning heavily. It is so hard to convince myself not to pick him up from his school. there is a shelter, there are a lot of other kids, he got to get used to this kind of life, grow up.....It turned out that I was worried too much. At the time when my husband picked him up, all kids are in a big room watching TV.

On Thursday, he went to luklele class and somehow finished part of the homework.

I am pretty happy with his first week. He is asking me to pick him up later today, which is a good sign.

哥哥弟弟

哥哥6岁， 弟弟还有几个月就4岁了。现在打架比一起玩少多了。看他们一起玩，真是开心。 有一天回来，看到餐桌上添了很多划痕。我很生气，问谁干的。弟弟大声指责：“是哥哥！” 糊涂的哥哥居然想了想，说是他，反应过来才说不是他。我说，肯定是弟弟！弟弟说：“不是我，是桌子自己干的！” 爸爸妈妈都气得笑起来。 弟弟转头又说，桌子只有一个颜色，意思是他给桌子添颜色呢。 等打屁股的时候倒是爽快，我让他一边数有多少个划痕，我一边打屁股，25下，我手都有点疼，人家倒是很高兴的样子。

Princess Pullup. Benjamin is just a few months to four, and he is still having pullups at night! He said that it is pullup, not diaper, so he isn't a baby anymore, he is still a little boy. But he still wet his pullups almost everynight! He used a bag of toys story pullups soon after he came back from China. I went to costco to get another box. After we opened the box, we found out that it is PRINCESS pullups! My husband throw it to me, and said that it is my responsibility to have Ben wear it. Luckly, Ben just laughed at it. He still wets princess almost every night! I let the princess to kiss him once she is clean.

April 10,2011. Ben sat in the back while I was playing a disk in the car. Lyric: "If you never come back, my heart will break." "mom, why people's heart break?" "well, if you don't get close to me, don't love me, my heart will break." "Oh, then heart is made of glass, and it will break if I fall to the ground!"

哥哥: Arthur suddenly offered to help me clean the dishes, and make the table! It was March 7th, 2011. I was thrilled! He got two stars for doing that!

Mom got promoted: Before hubby left, Arthur said sadly: mom, you will be my only choice (no one will change battery and play dvd for him). He promoted me as his BEST choice soon after I got his first pet, and went to subway to take sandwich for dinner.

A and B came back

Arthur and Benjamin came back. They two changed a lot. Both of their Chinese are so fluent. Benjamin is so talktive now!

Dad had his birthday in China and got no one to celebrate it for him. I cooked Beijing noodle for him per his request. But how can noodle dinner be called birthday dinner? Arthur insisted that we got to have a cake. But how can a cake without icing to called birthday cake? I have to use the cream cheese to take the place of the cream since the cream that I kept in the freeze doesn't seems to be working. Luckly the cheese can still hold candle. Two boys are happy when they can sing the song for their dad.

Arthur complains that our dinner is so simple. He said that "I used to eat so much but now it is so little". Well, in his grandpa's home, everyday they arranged the dinner and cook. Apparently mom can't beat a group of cook. Arthur wants fish so we went to Costco. Arthur said that a fish without head isn't a real fish. So we got a REAL fish not only has head but covered with scales! Arthur was happy that night since we had a BIG dinner.

I took both kids to the playground of the mall. Two boys were playing in the toy boat, and they said "go away!" loudly to a little girl! After five minutes, Arthur reported to me that Benjamin did something. A 7 or 8 years old girl were in tear. Benjamin said that "I was doing Kongfu! Hey! Hey! Hey!" His little fists were powerful! It isn't easy to get him to say sorry to the poor girl.

弟弟两岁半

弟弟两岁半， 睡觉的时候读了书，亲昵一下，然后就会说：“妈妈你走”。他要枕着小星星枕头睡觉了。当妈妈的怅然若失啊，原来弟弟总是说，妈妈再陪一会，妈妈再陪一会，如果妈妈走了他就要哇哇哭，那时候总有被需要的感觉，现在呢，弟弟给训练出独立性了，妈妈又觉得自己不那么重要了。

今年老公不愿意弄圣诞树，老大要了好几次，最后是妈妈买下了。老公给取回来，居然要用个水桶装土把7尺高的树插进去。大晚上的我开车出去两次，终于把树的底座给装好，自己运回家，然后仔细给装饰好了。 松树的香味满屋都是，一闪一闪的小星星映在镜子了，小孩子真是喜欢，我也很欢喜。我准备以后每年都弄颗树。 小孩子能在我们身边快乐多久呢？ 等我们老了，装饰了最漂亮的树，又有谁围着树唱歌跳舞呢？

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我家打孩子屁股是惩罚手段 （打得不疼啊，但态度严厉），因为对老二没多大用，再加上弹脑门。对老大，time out 就很有用。老公说，只要对孩子爱，还有就是惩罚后要说明原因，惩罚就是对的。

现在想我们是不是太暴力了。老二好几次在我们眼皮下，因为其他的小朋友碰了他，就要去打人家。在家里有时候打爸爸妈妈哥哥，我们也不是太说他，说了也没用。有一次因为我不给他吃cookie, 伸手打我，真是手很重呢。昨天出门，我做了错事 （costco 哥哥坐购物车边上，我没注意，伸手拉车，结果哥哥掉出来了，哇哇哭），然后弟弟伸小手就打我，然后和哥哥一起哭。

我反思，是不是我家老二让我们给培养坏了，觉得谁做错了就要挨打。那我们家是不是错了也不能打屁股了。打屁股成习惯了，有时候不真打，嘴上也是顺口就说出来，现在不好改了。

老二是个急脾气，模仿能力又强，不太知道怎么教育他。

阿瑟得了奖!

我家阿瑟今天得了这学期的班里的最佳进步奖。 我还以为一堆孩子得奖呢。 今天早晨参加发奖， 一个班只选四个小朋友： 一个小姑娘得最佳行为奖， 一个中美混血小姑娘说是词汇量特别多得奖，她妈妈特意买了花送给她呢。 阿瑟和另外一个小男孩是学习奖。 老师说阿瑟是： 班里最小的孩子，基础差（little experience), 过去几个月进步特别大，现在居然能读书了。

我们也特别惊讶阿瑟的进步。 他上学之前的幼儿园是放羊，基本不教东西， 我们两个都忙，唯一坚持的就是睡觉前读书了，读书的时间还很短， 而且基本是用汉语读书。 他上学前笔都拿不好，也不喜欢写字画画，每天就是和弟弟玩火车汽车，然后就是看电视玩游戏。上K后，每天都高高兴兴去上学，很短的时间进步就特别快。每天回来都主动做作业，一周的作业周一发下来，周二就要交上去，如果拖到周四周五，那肯定是爹妈拖后腿。 现在能写字， 数字能写到100， 每天还尝试读书。早晨晚上都念念叨叨的， 什么7后面是8，哪两个词rhyme，等等。 九月八号开学，到现在11周，进步真是飞速。 我真敬佩美国学校的老师，这么密集的教学量决定是我们家长做不到的。

要知道阿瑟是个资质平平的孩子， 周围朋友家聪明伶俐的孩子智力技能都是超出阿瑟很多的。 另外他是个慢性子，特别专注自己的事情，给人感觉就是木木的。 现在有了个学习的环境，立刻就突飞猛进，表现出对学习的极大地热情，真令我们欣慰。 现在我们不羡慕其他的孩子写写画画了， 阿瑟现在最喜欢做的就是写字画画。

Arthur will start school!

I am so nervous! At least that I know his teacher's name: De la Cera.....


March 22, 2010

Artuhr has three more months to finish his kindergarten year. He has been such a great kid. He loves school and don't want to miss any class. He sit next to the teacher so he learned a lot even with his poor listening skills (Many thanks to Louise, or I won't know that he needs surgery in both of his ears). He got a couple of good friends. He loves painting and drawing. I still remember that I was a good student when I was at his age: loves drawing, good at reading and shapes. I must say that he is a better one than me.

明明两岁的事

弟弟真聪明
妈妈教明明用点鼠标，让他喜欢的歌重新放一遍。 他一学就会了。 妈妈高兴的夸他：“弟弟真聪明！” 后来他自己每次重复放歌的时候，都会小声说一句 “弟弟真聪明” 来夸奖自己。

爸爸哥哥中国呀
送爸爸和哥哥到机场， 明明本来扭着小腿要下来走走的，看到妈妈跟本就没让他下车，带着他开车走了， 立刻就大哭起来。 后来我说了好几次， 爸爸和哥哥去中国了，他才不哭了。 明明很想爸爸个哥哥的。 想的时候就说：“ 爸爸。。哥哥。。中国呀， 妈妈。。弟弟。。。家里呀。” 有时候也说成妈妈。。弟弟。。中国呀， 他是不是也想去中国呢？ 明明还提醒我给爸爸打电话， 如果电话说得短了， 他就拿着电话反复的哭。 明明最喜欢听哥哥叫他弟弟的声音， 一听就微微的笑。

唉
那天我带明明出去玩，回来的时候停了车，往后面一靠，不由自主地唉了一声。刚唉完，就听后坐上有人奶声奶气的说：“累死了。” 这个小鹦鹉，什么时候把我的口头语学去了。

两只老虎
哥哥在电话里唱了两只老虎的歌，弟弟印象深刻，教他几次就会了。“两只老虎， 两只老虎， 一个一个耳朵，一个一个尾巴”让他唱歌的时候他就这么唱。今天，改说：“两只。。。。妈妈。。。。两只。。。爸爸。。。两只。。。弟弟。。。两只。。。。哥哥！”

踏青

春天到，去踏青。野兔跑，鸭子游， 哥哥跳，弟弟叫。

如蝴蝶飞过花间, 蜻蜓划过水面

我的目光掠过你的面庞, 停留到远处的山峦

这里的夏日有阳光的暴晒

落雨就是奇迹的到来

许多年前飘落窗前的凤凰花奇异的香

早已不见了的教学楼夏日槐树的浓荫

十年前遗失的泰戈尔的飞鸟集

异国他乡古老的窗前

也曾静静的落下秋叶

远远的衣服

远远从小就不喜欢新鲜的衣服，给他买衣服都选和他旧衣服接近的买，如果有了新样子的衣服，都要费尽口舌才能让他穿上。 现在年纪大了，会表达了，最近给他穿衣服， 如果夸他漂亮，他就一脸不高兴得说：“我不喜欢漂亮衣服”。 为了骗他穿新的衣服， 我都要说：“这是姥姥自己做的衣服，真是不漂亮啊，快来穿。”“这是一个阿姨给你从北京买的衣服，太不漂亮了，快来试试。”上次给他买个红色绒衣，现在坚决不穿，是不是因为我说他穿了特别的漂亮呢？只好等一等，等他忘了再骗他穿了。

两个孩子的不同,总是让我惊奇. 明明特别喜欢新鲜事物, 去买鞋的时候, 自己就把自己的旧鞋脱掉, 等不及我结帐交钱也要穿新鞋. 现在远远大了, 如果有样子朴实的新鞋, 也能穿在脚上. 他小时候, 让他试一试新鞋时多莫艰难的事情啊.

明明的近况

再有半个月明明就一岁半了. 现在他会说:

爸爸 (一般情况下不叫, 有时候在爸爸的威逼利诱下也妥协的叫几声, 一般是对着爸爸叫妈妈)

妈妈 (这个是经常叫,时时叫)

哥哥 (最喜欢的人, 也经常欺负的人, 注意,是小的欺负大的) ，阿姨 (一叫阿姨阿姨就高兴)

爷爷,奶奶, 姥姥,牛牛, 头头 (这都是我们教的了)
鸭鸭(指所有有翅膀的), 车车, 唔唔(指天上就是飞机, 不然就是火车), 鹉(鹦鹉, 我家的玩具, 可以重复简单的词) ，再见 （有时候我们打电话忘了说他就大声地替我们说） 。。。
不地不地贝贝(所有的小宝宝, 包括自己)

还有就是嘴巴里老有各种各样的声音. 我们说一, 能大声地叫二. 最喜欢去停车场, 因为他啊啊的大叫能听到回音. 最喜欢的玩具除了小火车就是他自己的推车, 出门一定要自己推, 坚决不要别人帮, 除非是哥哥坐进去, 才让人帮他一起推哥哥. 看一岁半的明明推四岁的哥哥真是一景啊.

现在晚上还是和我们睡一个屋, 有时候能在自己的小床睡整觉, 有时候半夜醒了要和我们挤一个床. 最新的本领是自己从浴缸里翻进翻出.

12 月的时候我们就不用阿姨了， 一月份我们会送明明去远远原来的学校，明明两岁的时候我们也看好了一个学校可以送。不过12 月可真麻烦，找了好久，终于一个邻居说可以替我们看半个月了。本来以为很容易的事情呢，我们两个年底时间都宽裕，就需要韧带十几天的样子，谁知道那末麻烦，我们还早早帮我们的阿姨找了下家， 幸好现在解决问题了。

A and B in October

Oct 30th

Arthur is so much happier in his new school! He gained 7 pounds in 3 months as the tallest kid in his class! He also made several new friends. His best friends are Pablo and Sofia who are twins. He hugs them every day. I am so glad that he is so happy now. The only bad part is that he forgetting how to write. Starting from yesterday, I have him practice writing every night. In rewarding, I mark a star in the calendar and promised that he will be rewarding with an electronic train once he collects 20 stars.

Benjamin is such a cute kid. He learns everything so quickly. He refused to sit in his highchair now and insists that he will sit at the table like others do. He wants to use pan and likes to scrawl on the papers. What a different boy he is!

We will send Benjamin out in December.

A and B in August

August 11th
Arthur enjoys swimming a lot recently.

After Weimin came back, I started taking him to the big pool. He loves it! He swims with his head in the water, and with his dog style. It is hard to teach him the froggy style. He drinks water all the time.

Benjamin like to walk around while Arthur's in the water. When he walks on the hot surface, he just started to cry. He doesn't know to walk under the shade even he cried for several times. Yesterday he walked for around 30 steps with me holding just one of his little hands. He swaddled like a duck which make himself so cute!

Photos

是真的蛇啊! 远远学校有一次有自然课, 远远摸了蛇,蜥蜴等等.


远远四岁生日我做的蛋糕, 很受欢迎呢. 美国的蛋糕都太甜了, 很多也不用真的奶油,因为做出的花很容易化掉. 这是我第一个成品蛋糕呢.

远远明明在上体操课,其实就是玩.